Blog & Updates
Currently, I primarily blog on this website, although admittedly not as frequently as recommended. Writing can be wonderfully therapeutic in a variety of ways. Whether you share what you write with the whole world, just your therapist, or no one, I hope you can experience the self-discovery, emotional dumping, and joy that writing can bring.
Mother’s Day can often be a trigger for adoptees. As a single adoptive mother, I don’t expect gifts or pampering. Parenting kids with a history of trauma and/or loss, we have extra things to consider even with normal gift ideas. Here are some ways you can surprise the single foster or adoptive mamas in your community:
There is a lot of insecurity for a lot of people right now, but our children seem to be more secure than ever before. Maybe 2020 wasn’t all bad. My newest NYE tradition is thankfulness and reflection.
We are struggling as individuals, as parents, and our children are struggling too. 7th grade history class is not essential. Your child’s mental health matters. Your child’s relationship with you matters.
As we start looking forward to 2021, we can prepare by taking the time and space we need now to fully process all the stresses, losses, hurts, and anxieties from 2020. We need to process the trauma and the grief. [CBS4Indy Video]
The child that was not adopted will age out of the orphanage before most American children are allowed to drive. It is estimated that more than 14 million children age out of orphanages each year.
2020 has been enough to overwhelm anyone.To have the emotional stamina for this marathon, I have to dose my dissociation rather than binge it and focus on neurobiological regulation amidst all of the tragedies.
Adult adoptees and birth parents may find they are struggling with restrictions and isolation. Many young adoptees are responding positively to more time with family and having to navigate fewer relationships.
Therapists may integrate any of these four types of music into your sessions for part or all of the counseling session to specifically reach your brain and enhance your brain’s healing capacities.
Commitment mentality is selfless and puts aside all of what we have dreamed and envisioned to meet him where he is, to love all that he is, all that he is not, and do the hard work of parenting when it is difficult and not what you had envisioned.
Typically premarital programs occur prior to the wedding, but research says the window of opportunity lasts into the first year of marriage and will reduce the chances of divorce and increase marital satisfaction, both immediately and long-term.
When you ask your partner for something, ask in a way that invites your partner to want to give it to you. It’s not just your words, but your tone, body language, etc. Let your request be an invitation your partner wants to accept.
For productive communication, I encourage couples to trade in the ping-pong style of communicating most of us are familiar with for a style of communication that actually MOVEs things forward. You can change the conversation simply by how you respond.